As to the second point, a girlfriend once told me, "I love you so much when you're not around."
Re the first, occurrences that require us to actually process before speaking are probably rarer than we'd like to acknowledge, and so we've stored emotional equivalents of "etc." in order not to deal with them but to breeze through them like the child in the rye on the way to the cliff, safe in our faith that someone will be there to catch us.
As to the second point, a girlfriend once told me, "I love you so much when you're not around."
Re the first, occurrences that require us to actually process before speaking are probably rarer than we'd like to acknowledge, and so we've stored emotional equivalents of "etc." in order not to deal with them but to breeze through them like the child in the rye on the way to the cliff, safe in our faith that someone will be there to catch us.